Future Self

Be in the present! Have gratitude for the things and relationships you have. Slow down, enjoy the moment…these are the messages being tossed our way all the time.

What is the present if not prep for the future, or a different present yet to come?

Planning, expecting, being excited for a future time is an important part of being. Of being in the now.

Who will you be when you get that job or step to the plate in the game? What will your mental state be? Your skills and tools? Will you be prepared to employ the lessons learned? How do you plan to teach yourself those lessons? When?

Being able to show the world who you will be in the future is an important part of being in the now. Future relationships aren’t interested in who you are now, they want to know what’s gonna happen when…do you have a plan?

No Expiration Date

Have you ever read an article or looked at some notes from long ago and thought “wow, this is really pertinent to me today,”?   Are you surprised when that happens? Don’t be. People have been having good ideas (even you!) for a long time…and good ideas generally don’t expire. If they were good then they likely can work now.

We spend so much time thinking of new and improved ways to do things when perhaps we should consider tweaking things we’ve done or thought to do before.

Innovate, yes, but also look back, steal and modify the great ways of getting things done that you’ve learned about and practiced already.

Info Overload

We are flooded with information.  There are so many great books, articles, journals, lectures, videos and other material produced by smart, experienced and successful coaches and leaders in all areas that it’s easy to get overloaded by others’ thoughts and tactics.

We need to take action!  Develop your own strategies (feel free to steal them, but make them your own at the same time) and clarify your voice and ideas.  Consider what’s important to you and then get to work executing those plans.  Just like you tell your people: it’s ok to fail.  Get to work determining where you’d like to go and how you think it’s best to get there.  Devise an action plan and GO!

Believe in Team

Do you believe in the concept of Team?  This is a good question to ask yourself (of course!) as well as those whom you consider to be members of your team(s).  The whole being greater than the sum of the parts.  This is a general definition of team; and each person in the group needs to really understand what that means for a team to work.

Human nature leads to me-first attitudes.  TEAM means resisting this at times, and it’s a coach’s job to illustrate the need for TEAM in order to accomplish goals, just as it is to help kids learn to put themselves second to the team.  Simple, but not easy.

Before you can develop TEAM, or team players, even, you should, Coach, confirm that everyone believes it’s a good idea.

Go.

Don’t Just Listen, Stand There!

“Be present,” “listen with your heart,” and other phrases have become popular throughout our busy world.  We move so fast, and do many things (at once) that listening to others often seems like a challenge (perhaps because we don’t even know how to listen to ourselves).

Create the conditions for better listening.  Stop and make time to listen with all of your physical senses, and also actively practice putting judgement aside and get to the feelings and perspective of the speaker.

Why are they saying what they are, and what do they need from you?  Often, it’s simply to be heard.

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The Human Condition

We are naturally selfish beings; it’s important and often valuable to have self-preservation as an inherent trait.

People do things that positively impact them in some way.  We tend to do what’s best, or seems best, for us, and hope for good things to happen.  We put ourselves first.

Seeing oneself as #2 in your own world is really, really challenging.  It’s also a key to being a great team member.  Find ways and times to force kids to put themselves second to something, anything, anyone.  It’s great practice for team membership.

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Why is Talking So Hard?

What if i’m wrong?  What if she gets mad at me?  …I might feel badly afterwards.

We resist the DEMAND that we talk out loud about our concerns, needs and commitments.  So often the need for safety and calm rather than storm overrides the demand that good open, honest and direct communication will provide relief and a chance to move forward.

Let’s make practicing honesty and communicating our needs, and simply what we think–even if we might not make everyone (even ourselves) happy–a part of our team training.  Start with the coach.

Go.

Moments That Matter

There are moments that matter more. Oftentimes we can feel them, even see them coming, but sometimes they sneak up on us, or even remain invisible until they’ve passed.

Recognizing the moments that matter requires a broader vision, a sense of the bigger picture. It requires a level of self-awareness so that we are able to see others around us and understand the impact of external factors.

Self-awareness is one of the toughest traits to instill as a coach.  We want our players to understand that TEAM is much more than a collection of individuals and that TEAM has it’s own set of moments that each member must be a part of. This vision can be practiced.

Create and make note of “the moments” and help your players respond without being overwhelmed by the importance.

Fluency

We admire the people who have “made it,” been “successful”: make the most money, have the most happiness, win the most games…

We point to those people as role models, teach their tactics, employ their strategies, read their books.  Usually we’re fired up and maybe it even works for a time.  However, we seldom can bring their stuff into our stuff at a level that really makes a difference for us because we have to think about using someone else’s language.  The time it takes to translate makes it stilted and removes the flow and often the efficacy.

Create your own dictionary and teach the language to your people.  Once everyone in your organization speaks the same language without exception and looks at the world through the same lens you’ll be able to take big steps.

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Big win!

Milestone wins are exciting recognition of activity–you’ve had measureable success–and are often good ways for people to thank you, or to compare you to those they may think are better than you.

Each game counts as one and the next game should be respected just as much as the last one,  just as the losses should be.

Long term success may mean you’re a “great coach”, what are the other factors? How will you improve those? Do you have a road map? Can you teach others?  Define your version of success and get on it.

Go.